New Years means starting fresh. Daydreaming about new accomplishments and challenging ourselves to try new things is invigorating. Don’t you just love the sense of accomplishment that comes from reaching your goals? One year I vowed to run 12 miles straight and finished in four months. Another time I made a $5 weekly grocery budget work.
This year, my top priority is being an intentional wife and mother.
It is a real challenge to purposefully set apart family time between dozens of cloth diaper laundry loads and piles of dishes. Many days I look back and wish I’d taken Summer to the park, read a book with my son, or sought my husband’s heart. The 2014 Family First Challenge is a checklist of concrete ways to serve and bless my family daily.
Whether wives and moms work outside the house or not, our primary ministry is with our family. God certainly uses women in career fields and in all areas of ministry, but he has a special place in his heart for family and calls us to care for our own.
Family-First Challenge #1: Shower my husband in love.
The marriage relationship is the core of a family. It’s super important to relish that bond, to strengthen our ties as man and wife, and to learn to communicate and show one another love in the way each person best receives it. I’ve set two main tasks.
All men need respect. It’s a Biblical truth that I’m better at saying than doing.
One way to grasp the concept of verbal respect is to speak to your a husband like he was a boss at work. This doesn’t mean that a wife bow to his every request, but rather that we treat our husbands with the kind of respect that we give in the workplace. I would never consider nagging or shouting at my supervisor or expecting him to sit through a whinefest about a haircut gone awry. Speak respect to your man and speak love to his heart. [Tweet this!] Here’s a great book that digs deeper into the topic.
Married men need sex. I know that sometimes it’s the last thing we wives want to think about at the end of a crazy hectic day, but it’s vital.
This year I’m diving deep and jumping into the 72 hour challenge. If you’re new to this concept, it means that you hook up with your guy at least every 72 hours. We started this challenge a few months ago, and though we only made it a couple of weeks, my husband and I can both attest to the improvement in our relationship from having only changed this one area.
Hope this inspires you to come up with new ways to give 100% in your role as a wife and mama this year. What are your New Year’s goals? Please share below and let us know what’s on your list!